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The Drama
Talia talk to Shaheen in the evening
I was visiting with Mama Tant Rajia, and she gave me a gift
Shaheen: What's the gift?
Talia: she gave me a relationship assessment
Shaheen: what: Can you imagine that we are in Tant Rajia School? Tant Rahia is a nursery manager who does assessments for teachers and supervisors only, not us.
Talia: Please do not scoff at words. Tant Rahiya has a PhD in psychology, and assessments in any field: something for her that is easy to get from her friends.
Shaheen: Who will give us grades?
Talia: Shaheen, we're going to do the daily assessment, we're going to do it, don't make it a joke
Dear Husbands
Feelings were not placed in us for nothing, they were placed in us for wisdom. In the beginning of creation, feelings of fear called us to survive.
Now: If you fear for your marital life to collapse: Just remember the subject of initial feelings of fear at the beginning of creation, and for this reason: Do what marital relations experts support and do not underestimate them.
Finally: Feelings differ from day to day because we live among a group of people, even if they are only relatives, and therefore feelings are volatile, today you are saddened but your wife and she is happy (this should not be) empty the daily feelings improves your marital relationship. Do yourself a favor by empty your feelings one by one.
This 5min Relationship Check In Will Transform Your Marriage
t its most basic, a relationship check in is a structured time for couples to assess the health of their relationship. When done right, this foundational relationship practice allows you to address underlying issues, capitalize on what’s working, and plan for your future together.
Relationship check ins are also known as a marriage meeting, a couples check-in, a relationship check up, a “state of the union” meeting, or as we sometimes call them, a relationship review.
Relationship Check In
But whatever you call it, the aim is the same:
To help your relationship be the best that it can be, and to make sure you both feel fulfilled and connected.
Before we started doing our relationship check in we found it difficult to bring up issues with each other:
We’d walk on eggshells trying to figure out when was the ‘right time’. But the longer we waited, the worse it got, until one of us would blurt out something hurtful and we’d end up in an argument.
(Sound familiar?)
But a relationship check in changed all that for us, and it’s since become a time of connection and quality conversation that we genuinely look forward to.
Which is why we believe you need to start your own check in ASAP.
There are some important steps to include (and some common mistakes to avoid) to help your relationship check in go smoothly.
So let’s start here:
How Often Should You Have a Relationship Check In?
Generally, the more often you have a relationship check in, the better. Once per week is a great place to start, but if you struggle to fit it into your schedule, bi-weekly or monthly can work too. The most important thing is to pick a regular time and set reminders so that it actually happens.
Here are seven helpful, easy-to-follow steps to have your own successful relationship check in:
1. Pick A Regular Time
Ideally, you want to be relaxed, present, and in good spirits, so don’t schedule a check in after a long day at work, or right before you need to rush out the door. You want to bring your best to these meetings.
2. Set The Scene
Your relationship check in is an opportunity to slow down and connect with each other, so why not make it feel a little special? Bring your favourite snacks and drinks, or have it in a place that feels good to you. And be sure you’re somewhere private so you feel comfortable getting real with each other.
3. Set A Time Limit
You don’t want this to become a huge time sink, or a chore, so aim for around 30 minutes maximum to begin with.
4. Celebrate & Appreciate Each Other
We always start with the good stuff. This helps us to remember all the awesome things about our marriage, even if we have some more challenging topics to discuss. Appreciation is the secret sauce of a great relationship.
5. Take Turns Answering Questions
This is where you get to choose-your-own-adventure. We have two general formats that we recommend – a short form and a long form. (Keep reading for the full breakdown).
If you’re going to have your check ins more regularly, then the shorter format is a good fit. If you prefer monthly or quarterly, then try the more in-depth extended version.
You can also mix-and-match based on how deep you want to go or how much time you have available.
6. Choose An Action Item
Words are great, but actions are better. To integrate the insights from your relationship check in, pick an action that you each want to commit to.
7. Finish On A High
To wrap up, it can be fun to celebrate again. High five each other, have a cuddle or a smooch, whatever works for you.
Even if things get a little tense or something feels unresolved, find a way to come back to each other and your belief in your relationship.
When we’re working through some tough stuff, we’ll always finish with, “We’ve got this. We’ll work it out.” Even if we don’t know how. Because we always find a way.
Why Are Relationship Check Ins Important?
Simply put, a regular relationship check in helps keep your relationship on track. It can help prevent conflicts and arguments by addressing issues as they come up, and keeps you focused on creating the kind of relationship you want.
This simple practice really is one of the cornerstones of a healthy relationship. Here’s a few more important positive outcomes this habit will create in your relationship:
More Trust
Having a set time to talk about your relationship creates safety and security. You both get to feel reassured that nothing will get swept under the rug, that your partner is listening, and that they care about meeting your wants and needs.
Less Arguments
Once we started doing relationship check ins in our marriage, we noticed a dramatic reduction in conflict. There was less tension bubbling away under the surface, and we were more focused on the things that brought us together. Win.
More Presence
Having a set time also means you don’t have to worry about the “right time” to bring up any relationship issues. So in everyday life, you get to be more fully present and enjoy each other.
More Appreciation
Starting each check in with what’s working helps you to be focused on the healthy aspects of your relationship. This positive reinforcement helps you both feel more appreciated, valued, and invested in the relationship.
More Quality Time
It’s far too easy to get caught up in the busyness of life and to forget about making quality time together. Now, a relationship check in isn’t the only meaningful time you should be spending together, but it is time that will create more emotional intimacy and connection in your relationship.
More Relationship Satisfaction
Too many people are sleepwalking through life without really thinking about how to meet their wants and needs – or the wants and needs of their partner. Having a regular check in keeps you focused on your bigger picture goals, and the “why” of your relationship. It’s how you intentionally create a conscious relationship.
Anoher school: Daily...
WHY DAILY?
Because relationships are an ongoing process and change from moment to moment. We do a deeper dive monthly check-in that we call Team Time. team Times are really helpful, but they can require a little planning and aren’t frequent enough to get all couples in the habit of discussing their relationship. That’s why we also recommend having these separate shorter ones on a daily basis. In case you're not convinced that daily check-ins for your relationship are needed, did you know that couples who turn to one another daily have a much higher satisfaction rate? Unfortunately, couples who don't are much more likely to feel unsatisfied, to stagnate, or to separate.
DAILY CHECK-INS TAKES LESS THAN 15 MINUTES.
Here's where you will begin. Make sure you carve out 15 minutes of uninterrupted time together.
Jumpstart your daily check-in with these questions:
What did you most enjoy about our relationship today?
What can be even more enjoyable about our relationship?
How can we help each other enjoy our relationship even more?
If you find it too awkward to sit and talk directly, try to have the check-in on a walk or while having a meal? We find that some couples feel less pressure when they can integrate these questions into low intensity activities. It also helps the practice become more of a habit.
When you’ve finished taking turns listening to each other’s responses, be sure to close your daily check-in with appreciation and gratitude for one another.
The Links
https://practicalintimacy.com/relationship-check-in/
https://www.relationshipzen.ca/blog/strengthen-your-relationship-with-daily-dialogue
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The drama
Shaheen: Talia: Sit down, we will talk seriously now
Talia: I'm busy with some things right now, delay it, Shaheen
Shaheen: I said sit down, explain to me what you did yesterday with one of my friends Moataz
Talia: What did I do I don't really understand
Shaheen: Don't act like you don't understand, speak straight
Talia: I also do not understand, and the way you speak is unacceptable. You understand. Explain what you want to say at the end, and her voice rose.
Shaheen: You know from the beginning that talking through eye contact is absolutely forbidden with anyone other than me, and this is something agreed upon. You look like you are talking and not as if you are couple. You are crazy. I do not want to extend my hand on you.
Talia: Extend your hand on me, are you crazy?
Shaheen: Don't be mistaken
Talia: We were just talking about an important topic (about ....) That's all there is to it, and you so confidence in yourself so much, I never thought you would think that way, and you, too, were standing with Rana on the other side, and you were laughing out loud, right?
Shaheen: Are you doing this for this? Stop doing it again
Talia: You too, we all sit together and none of us sidestep a friend
Shaheen: Agreed
and they both go in another way and they're feel tired and psychological exhausted
Dear Husbands
Disagreements are coming, coming, so there is no two or more who meet in a place except that there is a place for the difference, so the problem is not that there is no disagreement, This is not good for healthy relationships, but the manner in which these differences are dealt with is what makes the differences multiply and multiply or disappear for a while, The product of something else that causes disagreement. Learn together how to adapt to disagreements, how to deal with them, and how to transform them into the strength of the relationship between you.
The conflicts in a relationship
Relationships are nothing but two different personalities with varying viewpoints coming together.
, conflicts in relationships are bound to happen when they are not accommodative and fail to understand each other’s feelings and differences. but what could be the root cause of these conflicts? Well, it could be the differences in perspectives, beliefs, opinions, personalities, experiences, and tastes
Understanding Conflicts In Relationships
A conflict in a relationship is defined as any kind of disagreement, struggle, or a heated debate between two people in a relationship. It typically includes an argument or continuous disagreements on an ongoing issue – like managing household chores or the ways of spending money
Main Causes Of Conflicts In RelationshipsPartners can have disagreements for various reasons. One of the most common causes of relationship conflicts is a complete difference in personalities and values. Following are a few other causes:
1. Power And ControlWanting to have control and power over people is one of the main causes of relationship conflicts. This generally happens when one person enjoys feeling superior to another.
2. SelfishnessWe often get so obsessed with our desires that we forget how our decisions affect others. This is true for any kind of relationship. In relationships, couples often have conflicts when one partner fails to think of the other person when making decisions.
3. CriticismA relationship where your partner criticizes everything you do is plain annoying. It can be equally frustrating if your partner blames you for everything. This is a sign of major trouble in the relationship.
4. Lack Of CommunicationCommunication is a crucial element in every relationship. However, communicating in an unhealthy relationship can result in arguments and constant bickering. This can lead to tension and, as a result, an end to any further communication in the relationship.
5. High ExpectationsIn any relationship, when one partner fails to meet expectations, the other tends to feel betrayed and hurt. to navigate the situation effectively, both partners need to keep their demands and expectations reasonable. They must always communicate with their partners to ensure they are on the same page.
6. ResentmentIf one partner offends the other for some reason, the other individual often fails to communicate the pain they felt. The latter is likely to keep those negative emotions in their mind and heart, leading to resentment.
InsecurityWhen one of the spouses in the relationship constantly feels insecure, this can cause arguments, bickering, and conflicts. In extreme cases of insecurity, it can also lead to all kinds of accusations that make any conversation difficult.
Effects Of Conflicts And Stress On Relationships
Conflict in relationships can lead to a significant amount of stress and emotional turmoil between the partners. The ongoing stress can negatively affect the health and well-being of both partners. It can also lead to anxiety, depression, and a drop in sleep quality.
Other effects of relationship conflicts can include:
Unhappiness and less satisfaction with the relationship
Emotional and physical withdrawal from everything
Lack of interest to work on conflict resolution strategies
Various types of insecurities
Harmful physical behavior, in extreme cases, like violence
Conflict triggers some very strong emotions that can lead to disappointment, feelings of hurt, and discomfort. When handled in an unhealthy manner, they can lead to irreparable rifts and breakups.
How can someone deal with conflicts healthily? Let us explore in the next section.
1. Maintain A Calm And Respectful Demeanor
When facing a relationship conflict, make sure to not cross lines or start insulting your partner. Instead, the need is to stay calm and focus on the dispute or issue at hand.
2. Create A Welcoming Environment For Open And Transparent Communication
The sign of a healthy relationship is when you and your partner can respectfully communicate openly about what is wrong in the relationship, what is bothering you, or what is going well. Nathalie Maggio, LMFT, says “Conflict in relationships is normal, it’s how we handle it that matters. By using active listening and taking the time to truly understand one another, we can use conflict as an opportunity to grow closer and strengthen our relationship. Remember to listen actively, summarize, and check with your partner if you understood them correctly. Then switch roles. From there you can work on finding a compromise if needed.”
3. Find Some Middle-GroundOne of the best ways to deal with a conflict in a relationship is finding a middle ground. It is important to strike a balance between what both partners want and are comfortable with. If both partners care about making the relationship work, they need to agree on various issues without feeling like they are sacrificing for the relationship to work.
4. Pick Your Battles Wisely
To navigate a tense situation effectively, make sure to pick your battles wisely. If you realize in the middle of an argument or disagreement that you and your partner are fighting over something minor, consider backing down or just laughing it off. For instance, fighting or arguing about which TV show to watch is not something you should waste your time and energy on.
5. Be Direct In Your Approach
Make sure to be direct and state what is bothering you instead of choosing indirect ways to express your unhappiness or displeasure. Beating around the bush without directly approaching the problem or being evasive can make the situation worse.
6. Talk To Professionals
If at any point you feel that your relationship conflicts are getting out of hand or your partner is dealing with trust issues and bouts of uncontrolled jealousy, seek professional help. If you and your partner cannot stop fighting over trivial issues, it probably is a sign that you need expert intervention to help improve your relationship and understand each other better.
https://positivepsychology.com/conflict-resolution-relationships/
https://www.stylecraze.com/articles/conflict-in-relationships/
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The drama
Shaheen: Talia: Sit down, we will talk seriously now
Talia: I'm busy with some things right now, delay it, Shaheen
Shaheen: I said sit down, explain to me what you did yesterday with one of my friends Moataz
Talia: What did I do I don't really understand
Shaheen: Don't act like you don't understand, speak straight
Talia: I also do not understand, and the way you speak is unacceptable. You understand. Explain what you want to say at the end, and her voice rose.
Shaheen: You know from the beginning that talking through eye contact is absolutely forbidden with anyone other than me, and this is something agreed upon. You look like you are talking and not as if you are couple. You are crazy. I do not want to extend my hand on you.
Talia: Extend your hand on me, are you crazy?
Shaheen: Don't be mistaken
Talia: We were just talking about an important topic (about ....) That's all there is to it, and you so confidence in yourself so much, I never thought you would think that way, and you, too, were standing with Rana on the other side, and you were laughing out loud, right?
Shaheen: Are you doing this for this? Stop doing it again
Talia: You too, we all sit together and none of us sidestep a friend
Shaheen: Agreed
and they both go in another way and they're feel tired and psychological exhausted
Dear Husbands
Disagreements are coming, coming, so there is no two or more who meet in a place except that there is a place for the difference, so the problem is not that there is no disagreement, This is not good for healthy relationships, but the manner in which these differences are dealt with is what makes the differences multiply and multiply or disappear for a while, The product of something else that causes disagreement. Learn together how to adapt to disagreements, how to deal with them, and how to transform them into the strength of the relationship between you.
The conflicts in a relationship
Relationships are nothing but two different personalities with varying viewpoints coming together.
, conflicts in relationships are bound to happen when they are not accommodative and fail to understand each other’s feelings and differences. but what could be the root cause of these conflicts? Well, it could be the differences in perspectives, beliefs, opinions, personalities, experiences, and tastes
Understanding Conflicts In Relationships
A conflict in a relationship is defined as any kind of disagreement, struggle, or a heated debate between two people in a relationship. It typically includes an argument or continuous disagreements on an ongoing issue – like managing household chores or the ways of spending money
Main Causes Of Conflicts In RelationshipsPartners can have disagreements for various reasons. One of the most common causes of relationship conflicts is a complete difference in personalities and values. Following are a few other causes:
1. Power And ControlWanting to have control and power over people is one of the main causes of relationship conflicts. This generally happens when one person enjoys feeling superior to another.
2. SelfishnessWe often get so obsessed with our desires that we forget how our decisions affect others. This is true for any kind of relationship. In relationships, couples often have conflicts when one partner fails to think of the other person when making decisions.
3. CriticismA relationship where your partner criticizes everything you do is plain annoying. It can be equally frustrating if your partner blames you for everything. This is a sign of major trouble in the relationship.
4. Lack Of CommunicationCommunication is a crucial element in every relationship. However, communicating in an unhealthy relationship can result in arguments and constant bickering. This can lead to tension and, as a result, an end to any further communication in the relationship.
5. High ExpectationsIn any relationship, when one partner fails to meet expectations, the other tends to feel betrayed and hurt. to navigate the situation effectively, both partners need to keep their demands and expectations reasonable. They must always communicate with their partners to ensure they are on the same page.
6. ResentmentIf one partner offends the other for some reason, the other individual often fails to communicate the pain they felt. The latter is likely to keep those negative emotions in their mind and heart, leading to resentment.
InsecurityWhen one of the spouses in the relationship constantly feels insecure, this can cause arguments, bickering, and conflicts. In extreme cases of insecurity, it can also lead to all kinds of accusations that make any conversation difficult.
Effects Of Conflicts And Stress On Relationships
Conflict in relationships can lead to a significant amount of stress and emotional turmoil between the partners. The ongoing stress can negatively affect the health and well-being of both partners. It can also lead to anxiety, depression, and a drop in sleep quality.
Other effects of relationship conflicts can include:
Unhappiness and less satisfaction with the relationship
Emotional and physical withdrawal from everything
Lack of interest to work on conflict resolution strategies
Various types of insecurities
Harmful physical behavior, in extreme cases, like violence
Conflict triggers some very strong emotions that can lead to disappointment, feelings of hurt, and discomfort. When handled in an unhealthy manner, they can lead to irreparable rifts and breakups.
How can someone deal with conflicts healthily? Let us explore in the next section.
1. Maintain A Calm And Respectful Demeanor
When facing a relationship conflict, make sure to not cross lines or start insulting your partner. Instead, the need is to stay calm and focus on the dispute or issue at hand.
2. Create A Welcoming Environment For Open And Transparent Communication
The sign of a healthy relationship is when you and your partner can respectfully communicate openly about what is wrong in the relationship, what is bothering you, or what is going well. Nathalie Maggio, LMFT, says “Conflict in relationships is normal, it’s how we handle it that matters. By using active listening and taking the time to truly understand one another, we can use conflict as an opportunity to grow closer and strengthen our relationship. Remember to listen actively, summarize, and check with your partner if you understood them correctly. Then switch roles. From there you can work on finding a compromise if needed.”
3. Find Some Middle-GroundOne of the best ways to deal with a conflict in a relationship is finding a middle ground. It is important to strike a balance between what both partners want and are comfortable with. If both partners care about making the relationship work, they need to agree on various issues without feeling like they are sacrificing for the relationship to work.
4. Pick Your Battles Wisely
To navigate a tense situation effectively, make sure to pick your battles wisely. If you realize in the middle of an argument or disagreement that you and your partner are fighting over something minor, consider backing down or just laughing it off. For instance, fighting or arguing about which TV show to watch is not something you should waste your time and energy on.
5. Be Direct In Your Approach
Make sure to be direct and state what is bothering you instead of choosing indirect ways to express your unhappiness or displeasure. Beating around the bush without directly approaching the problem or being evasive can make the situation worse.
6. Talk To Professionals
If at any point you feel that your relationship conflicts are getting out of hand or your partner is dealing with trust issues and bouts of uncontrolled jealousy, seek professional help. If you and your partner cannot stop fighting over trivial issues, it probably is a sign that you need expert intervention to help improve your relationship and understand each other better.
https://positivepsychology.com/conflict-resolution-relationships/
https://www.stylecraze.com/articles/conflict-in-relationships/
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The Drama
Talia: She is coming back very tired, she is preparing lunch because she called Shaheen while she was on the way and she knew that he was about to get home
Shaheen: He kisses her on the head, and tells her what these delicious smells are. The food seems to be very tasty
Talia: Yes, the best thing is that you come to help me because I am tired
After lunch and naps
Shaheen: What do you think of the escape room today?
Talia: You're crazy, right?
Shaheen: I will prepare the room, and you prepare popcorn and any nice drink
Talia: So what's the work today in the escape room
Shaheen: I bought group drawing papers and various colors, and we will paint together
Talia: Wow, this is the most important thing that removes negative energy. Tell me that it is small geometric shapes
Shaheen: exactly, my love
Talia: Tell me, are you going to set limits on the hours we can spend drawing from the start?
Shaheen: You know that drawing time limits kills the idea of an escape room in the first place, but unfortunately I will only set limits today for a 3 hours because I will visit my father and sit with him in the evening
Talia: She yells and runs to make drinks and popcorn
What are escape rooms?
Escape rooms are immersive, themed experiences where participants work together to solve a series of puzzles and challenges to “escape” within a set time limit. they come in various themes and difficulty levels, catering to a wide audience.
Explaining the popularity of escape rooms…
Escape rooms have exploded in popularity because they offer a unique and interactive form of entertainment.
Combining an exciting narrative and a thrilling atmosphere with mentally stimulating challenges (solving puzzles, breaking codes, and so on), escape rooms have proven to be the perfect group activity. They’ve become the go-to destination for various occasions ranging from a day out with family and friends to having personal events like a birthday and even – as we shall see – for a date with your special someone.
Enjoying a thrilling adventure together, celebrating one another’s victories, enjoying mutual successes, and laughing at each other’s mishaps can strengthen the connection between couples.
Improving communication between each other
In escape rooms, communication is key to solving puzzles and progressing through the adventure.
Effectively working together to solve puzzles and untangle clues requires each person on a couple-team to listen to what the other is saying and share both ideas and feedback.
While having fun, both of you will be honing your active listening, taking-turns-to-speak, and offering constructive feedback abilities.
Team-bonding with one another
By working together to solve puzzles and escape the room, couples can develop a deeper appreciation for each other‘s strengths and skills.
They can also learn to communicate more effectively and support each other when faced with difficult challenges.
These are just two of the ways taking on an escape room as a couple can be a team-bonding experience for both of you.
Creative thinking
Escape rooms provide a unique opportunity for couples to flex their creative thinking muscles as they work together to solve puzzles and challenges.
The out-of-the-box thinking and problem-solving skills gained from these experiences can carry over into daily life, helping you tackle challenges and work through issues in your relationship.
Tip: Speaking of creative thinking, if one of you has just got your first paycheque from a new job, it’s certainly worth celebrating at an escape room!
Teamwork
What does it mean to be a part of a team? For some, teamwork is experienced as a leader while others take the role of followers. For a partnership to thrive, there are times where one partner needs to be the leader while the other follows. In an Escape The Room situation, a couple will work as a team in order to get the end result desired. Much like real life, there are instances where, as a couple, one person has better skill than the other. While you might be an expert wordsmith, your partner might be better at riddles or puzzles. This is a great opportunity to explore what skills and strengths you have individually and as a couple.
A test in patience
Patience is a virtue, but it isn’t always possible or easy in some partnerships and marriages. Escape The Room is a 60-minute game where teamwork, communication, and patience are key. It will take patience in order to complete the task of escaping the room, and what a great and fun way to practice than with your lover or partner.
It takes two to trust
Certainly, in any relationship, partnership, or friendship trust is critically important. In Escape The Room, it is fun to rely on trust and patience to play a fun game with your loved one. A great way to trust your partner is to give up control in an Escape The Room game and trust that they might have the answer that you don’t have! Trusting one another in an Escape The Room will not only turn out to be a fun experience, but it will make your bond stronger. If that wasn’t enough, the best of times happen as a couple when you are doing something new and exciting. Escape The Room is a perfect date night place for you and your spouse to let loose and enjoy outside of the box experience. Book your next date night that neither of you will forget
The Links
https://lostrealityescape.com.au/escape-rooms-for-couples/
https://escapetheroom.com/blog/can-you-do-an-escape-room-as-a-couple/
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The drama
Talia: Shaheen, Shaheen, breakfast is ready
Shaheen: God bless you to me my loved, I'm dying of hunger, but I'm in a very hurry today. Allow me not to talk on the breakfast today? and when I come back, we'll talk
Talia: No, my love, talking is a basis, a basis, a basis in our relationship, 10 minute delay in your important appointments not a big deal, but your morning coffee with a good talk is more important than the rest of the day, right?
Shaheen: Ok, let's start with coffee.. and the two laughed
Dear Husbands:
1- The most important thing in relationships is (talking a lot). There is a study that says (babble will prolong your life). If you babble on your marriage, your marriage may be longer.
2- It is more important than talking to be away from electricity bills and buying tomatoes with you when you came from out the home, but rather about anything that strengthens the friendship between you.
3 - Life is full of troubles outside the home: gentle morning words that are not fraught with troubles create a happy day for you and your husband, so make sure to speak decently in the morning, as the rest of the day depends on it.
4- Speech also must be with an alert head. Do not listen while reading the newspaper or browsing the social media.
You can also read this study on the way
Couples can Strengthen Relationship/Marriage by Listening to each other
For successful relationships you must love yourself first before you love another. you cannot give what you do not have .
Be mindful of how you spend your time.
Couples who don’t listen will eventually be surrounded by people who have nothing to say. arguably, one of the most important traits couples can have is to actually listen to what others are saying to strengthen marriage against storms of life. sometimes that can be as easy as speaking less and asking lots of questions. Other times you may need to utilize techniques like not go with the flow into the conversation
Listening is an essential skill for a healthy marriage
Tips on the way:
1 - Break the barrier
In a healthy relationship, both parties must be willing to practice the act of listening to each other and this is often a barrier even from the courtship period. Some spouses take this for granted and make a connection to their partner’s character to justify the bad habit which can lead to emotional abuse and become detrimental to both their health and wellbeing. listening is a skill that can be learned from childhood through parents, carers, and guidance and when this is overlooked during the developmental stage of a child, it can manifest in adulthood. For some, growing up in a home where children were only seen and not heard can have a huge impact on their marriage in their adulthood because they want to be heard now while someone else is silent.
2 - Patience is golden
They say that it is not easy to teach an old dog a new trick, but with patience and perseverance, you can help your spouse appreciate the act of listening by putting yourself in the position of humility, to listen to your spouse without expressing emotions even when you know that he/she is not making sense.
3 - Give time and space
Time and dedication is important in practising the act of listening. You should always create the right time and mindset for communication when you are totally free to pay attention and listen, not when you are in a hurry to end the conversation. It is not impossible to practice the act of listening in your marriage if you are both willing and ready to work together as it requires determination, constant practice and encouraging each other not to give up.
The Link
https://www.linkedin.com/pulse/couples-can-strengthen-relationshipmarriage-listening-dayal-ram/
https://punchng.com/listening-is-an-essential-skill-for-a-healthy-marriage/